Welcome, Vagina Revolution!

Posted on: June 24th, 2012 by llewin No Comments

I have been fascinated with vaginas for years.  What is not to be fascinated with?  They are the most amazing organs—a tube only a few inches long that can expand to let in all kinds of things and then of course let out babies.  And then pretty much contract and go back to normal—or at least a new normal!  Vaginas are both sexual and not; they are the source of so much pleasure yet can also be the cause of so much pain.  I have mostly kept this fascination to myself—I didn’t really think others would be as fascinated as I was plus I thought they might look at me like I was a bit crazy if I even brought it up!  But in recent years I have changed my views on this.  This is my story and why I decided to write Vagina Revolution, a book that demystifies, de-stigmatizes, and educates about all things vagina…

For so many years, I had been amazed at how much vaginas have been shrouded by mystery—whispered about—not even looked at by countless women. Like most women, I have heard stories about friends growing up with feelings of shame and embarrassment about their vaginas (for example one older friend told me her mother smelled her fingers every morning and evening to make sure she wasn’t touching “down there”…and another friend told me her family never talked about anything vaginal so when she was home alone and started her period for the first time she thought she was dying…), as well as friends living with pain or discomfort because they didn’t know how to ask the right questions of their own doctors. Over the years I have found that basic and interesting information about women is not shared freely and easily as, say, information about nutrition or shoes.  This is not because we don’t care, rather it is because we don’t have enough vocabulary, answers, and knowledge about our vaginas.

I can’t stand the idea of anyone suffering in any way–physically, emotionally, or spiritually.  A lack of knowledge and embarrassment causes way too much shame, embarrassment and pain and suffering.   After all, vaginas are only one of many body parts, and women are comfortable with so much else, so why not vaginas, too?

I had my daughter Kate nine years ago and so much of my recent thinking on vaginas comes from experiences with her and questions she asks.  Recently my Kate asked: “Mommy, if there are 7 billion people in the world, and half have vaginas, and almost everyone born comes through a vagina, then why do we have to be embarrassed to use that word?” Kate’s question, my fascination with vaginas, and more led me to write Vagina Revolution.  I am a wife, mother, public policy wonk, and school counselor, but not an expert on vaginas so to fill in the gaps in my knowledge I lined up experts to interview: Ob/Gyns, a physical therapist who specializes on pelvic floors, a midwife, a marriage counselor, sex therapist, and even my own family-physician husband! The book is packed full of interesting, fun, and empowering information, and written in an entertaining way — like a conversation between two friends.

I passionately believe that it’s unfair, harmful, and just plain wrong that we still have hang-ups about one of the most basic and natural body parts–the vagina.  I hope my book helps women feel more knowledgeable about and comfortable with their vaginas and bodies.  I hope readers enjoy reading Vagina Revolution as much as I have loved writing it!

p.s. here are the table of contents…

Vagina Revolution

Part I — VAGINA — THE BODY

  1. Hole 1 (the Vagina)
  2. Hole 2 (the Urethra)
  3. Hole 3 (the Anus)
  4. The Rest of the Anatomy in the Region
  5. Goo (Cervical Fluid and Vaginal Discharge)
  6. Clitoris
  7. Look (Shave? Pierce?)
  8. Smell
  9. Feel (Normal? Itch? Pain?)

Part II — VAGINA — THE MIND

  1. Vaginas Over Time
  2. Sexuality and Intimacy
  3. Fantasy and Your Biggest Sex Organ—your Brain!
  4. Masturbation
  5. Orgasm
  6. Sex!

Part III — VAGINA — THE SPIRIT AND SOUL

  1. Childbirth and Motherhood
  2. Sexual and Gender Orientation
  3. What Is Going On With Our Sisters Worldwide
  4. Comfort for the Soul: Taking Care Of Your Vagina AND Yourself
  5. The Word on the Word and the Final Word

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