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One Year Anniversary of Vagina Protest in Lansing, Michigan

Posted on: May 6th, 2013 by llewin No Comments

I can hardly believe it has almost been a year since Lisa Brown, a Michigan state legislator, was banned from the House floor for using the word “vagina” in a debate about abortion.  After this happened Lisa Brown did not just sit there rather she used social media to garner support and attention and attention she got—Eve Ensler, living goddess who wrote the Vagina Monologues, came to Lansing a few short weeks later and she organized a performance of her award-winning play on the steps of the capitol building.  Thousands of people attended. I used my frequent-flyer miles and flew up from Charlotte to be there.  I was in the middle of writing Vagina Revolution: A Candid and Informative Conversation About Vaginas and I could not miss what I thought was part of the beginning of the actual revolution—women taking back the word vagina and owning it and using it because after all, it is a body part that half the world’s population has.


The one-year anniversary of the protest in Michigan is upon us and I read a fabulous article today about Eve Ensler and her thoughts on the word ‘vagina’.

“You can say ‘scud missile’ and ‘acid rain’ and ‘nuclear war’ and ‘terrorist bombing’ on the front page of any newspaper, but you say ‘vagina,’ and people freak out,” Ensler says in a phone interview last week. “Why is that? People say all kinds of degrading things about women’s bodies and it seems to be fine. I think ‘vagina’ is like one of those words which actually represents women power. … It’s not degrading, it’s not undermining. It’s real.”

The article was written by Kristen Jordan Shamus at the Detroit Free Press.  Here is a link:

Ensler has definitely made the world a safer place for women and for the word vagina and she shows the connection—the importance of the connection—in her new book which is profiled in the aforementioned article. But she also talks about how we have much more work to be done.  We need to normalize the word vagina, and the body part.  I try to do that in my book Vagina Revolution. Because after all, the year is 2013, information is at our fingertips, but many women still feel disassociated with and uncomfortable with their vaginas and their bodies.  Enough is enough!  It is time to own what is rightfully ours—our bodies and our feelings associated with our bodies. Vagina Revolution helps women do that because it is a book about vaginas—twenty-two topics/chapters in all ( , and it is written in the form of a conversation between two women.  Some of these topics can be a bit uncomfortable but reading the book is like eavesdropping on a conversation between two women—very comfortable and familiar, yet also informative and life-changing.

There has been some work done in this area over the past year—the word vaginas has been mentioned hundreds of times on popular tv shows and in the media—much more than any previous year.  But there is so much more to be done.  The more the word—and the body part—is normalized, demystified and destigmatized, the better off women will be.

So hats off to you, Eve Ensler—for starting the fight and for continuing it.  I hope to join your league of warriors as we fight for change for all women.




The Vagina Revolution is beginning!! (the long version)

Posted on: June 24th, 2012 by llewin No Comments

Marc and I got married in 1999 and although we were a bit older—ages 31 and 34—we still wanted to enjoy a year or so of married life before having kids.  Since I had been told for most of my life that I had a condition called Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS) I was really worried about my fertility and the ability to get pregnant.  Even before I started trying to get pregnant I read a book called Taking Charge of Your Fertility and I learned so much about my vagina, about cervical fluid, and so much more and I could not believe I had not know all of that before. I mean, I was 31 years old, educated, had a masters in public policy, I listened to NPR and I felt like I was up on the latest news…how could I not know some of the most basic things about my own body?!

Even though I had been fascinated with vaginas in general all of my life, this was the first time I actually thought that someone needed to write a book on vaginas—a book that would spell out in the most easy, basic way what women need to know about our own vaginas.

I had read Our Bodies Ourselves before—that amazing book by the Boston Women’s Health Initiative—but that was years earlier when my older brother gave it to me as a parting gift when I went off to college—and I didn’t even know where it was any more.  What I wanted now was something really easy and really basic—about my vagina, cervical fluid, and the basics.

But alas we did get pregnant and had Max in 2001, then followed with Kate in 2002 and Charlie in 2004 and my book went on the back burner.

I loved raising my children and spending time with them but I always knew I would need to work outside of the house as well as inside the house.  I went back to graduate school when I was pregnant with Charlie and I got my masters in school counseling so I could become a high school counselor.  I worked in a public high school in Charlotte, NC for almost two years when my school sent me to a middle school. I arrived in October and became the 6th grade counselor to over 400 students. I was fortunate to follow them to 7th grade and then to 8th grade.  They just “graduated” this past month and they will be moving on to high school in the fall.

So what does this have to do with vaginas?  Not so much—I apologize for digressing!—but it does have a lot to do with my observations of people in general and how much self-consciousness and embarrassment in general can really put a damper on your feelings about yourself and your body.  There is nothing like watching and getting to know 400+ middle school students over a three-year period to see how much self-consciousness can wreak havoc on your life and your feelings about yourself!

As my kids got older they asked more and more questions that often pointed out the many hypocrisies they observed.  One question of Kate’s specifically brought me back to thinking about vaginas.  She asked “mommy, if there are 7 billion people in the world and half have vaginas then why are people so embarrassed to use that word?”  She got me thinking again about how much shame and embarrassment so many women feeling so badly about their vaginas, their bodies, themselves.  Even though there had been some progress over the years—Eve Ensler’s Vagina Monologues to name one big piece of evidence, as well as a few mentions of the word vagina on television shows and in a few movies—the word and the body part was very much still shrouded in mystery and whispered about at best.  More and more I felt like if we could just break the word vagina out of the closet and “normalize” it then the rest would follow—women would feel more comfortable about using the word and then talking about and addressing issues with the body part.  I started writing my book Vagina Revolution a couple of years ago in earnest this time.  I interviewed many women who work with vaginas day in and day out: Ob/Gyns, a physical therapist who works primarily on pelvic floors, a retired midwife, a sex therapist, and others who could give me more insight and detailed information.  The first few drafts of my book emerged.

At the same time there was a lot of rumbling and energy around using the word vagina in public.  Kotex tried to use the word “vagina” in television ads a couple of years ago and three major network tv stations turned them down.  This led to lots of anger and frustration (check out and the hilarious ). Most recently—just last week!—in  Lansing, Michigan a female lawmaker Lisa Brown was banned from speaking on the house floor because she used the word “vagina” in a debate about abortion.  Thankfully Brown and other female lawmakers got fed up enough to start blogging and facebooking to get the word out and the goddess Eve Ensler who wrote the Vagina Monologues and also started V-Day came in to be part of the protest.  They all performed the Vagina Monologues on the capital steps in Lansing and thousands of women joined them to protest (including me—check out the picture, below!).  This to me was the first public demonstration of the Vagina Revolution.  Check out the articles below and stay tuned for many, many more adventures along the way of the journey of the Vagina Revolution.